Finders, Keeper

 

There is nothing better than love, of that I am sure, for some people finding a suitable mate is hard while for others, keeping the person until the journey to the aisle is the hard work. I believe in love, that is why I join the billions of people around the world to celebrate Valentine’s Day every year!

Let’s face it, relationship on any level is difficult including that between even siblings. Finding a soul mate and building a relationship begins from being attracted by a person’s looks, manner of speaking, walk, voice, etc. it grows into knowing and liking the person’s habits, goals and character as a whole. Although no human being is perfect, that means there may be aspects of a person that we wish, hope and pray that the person changes. If this is the case then we help to bring about those changes by correcting gently, waiting patiently and leaning wholly on God to effect the changes.

If the person resists changes and we know we cannot live with those imperfections, then it’s time to say “next!” I have managed in many situations in my life that I have decided not to manage my relationship/marriage also!

All of us would like to marry our best friend, someone who understands and supports us no matter the condition. Someone who will not leave us at the mercies of our in-law or feel inferior when we begin to achieve great things. Someone who will not be unreasonably jealous of our association with our friends or try to restrict our movement. Someone who will absorb our tears and replace them with smiles.

That special someone!

Are there still people like that on earth today? Of course they are. We are expected to find and keep our soul mate and be ready to be the ideal mate for them also. How?

To find your soulmate, you have to be available- chat on social media, place special ads in the print media, go to events, socialize with friends and colleagues. You never know when the sparks will start flying!

To keep your soulmate, make every effort to understand and show respect to the person, change bad or not so good habits. Keep the communication lines open, avoid double dating, it hurts like hell! Get to know the person’s goals and dreams and be supportive. Do not nag or become overbearing- always insisting that you are right. Take time out of your busy schedule to interact face to face. Saying “thank you” or “sorry” has never hurt anyone before. As much as you can afford, give gifts to the person- it may be as cheap as a poem you composed!

To be the ideal mate, you have to be sure that you have forever in your heart when you finally say “yes, I do” and that you have made up your mind to ensure that your soulmate is always happy and it will be just him or her. Nothing devastates couples or children as much as infidelity that leads to divorce.

I have made up my mind to be a finder, a keeper and an ideal- spouse, what about you?